Tempe, AZ (PRADULT) March 10, 2010 - Following an overwhelmingly successful debut in 2008, the Late Night Poker Lounge returns for a third consecutive year at the upcoming Phoenix Forum, April 8 – 10 at the Tempe Mission Palms.

The Late Night Poker Lounge quickly became a show favorite over the past two years, offering Phoenix Forum attendees the opportunity to unwind after a full day of seminars, and continue their networking into the night and well into the morning. Featuring poker, pole dancing, and a premium open bar, the lounge has historically been standing room only throughout the three days of the show.

“Talk about mixing business with pleasure. I can’t think of a better way to meet potential business partners and make new friends than sitting at the poker table over a little game of friendly competition,” said event organizer, Mike Hawk. “We had fun and got a ton of business done last year, and we’re looking forward to doing it even bigger and better this time around with more tables, more surprises, and bigger prizes.”

Sponsored by event veterans Smashbucks, CE Cash, Gamma and Grindhousemoblile, the Late Night Poker Lounge will feature Texas Hold ‘em and Black Jack with cash prizes. The lounge will open starting at 10 p.m. on Thursday, and will go all three nights of the show. Seats are limited and they go fast, so attendees that plan to attend the event are encouraged to get there early.

To learn more about Late Night poker or other scheduled events, visit www.thephoenixforum.com.

The Phoenix Forum would not be possible without the support of our sponsors, and special acknowledgement goes to:

Premium sponsors: Adult.com/RealityCash, National Net, Pussycash/IMLive

Platinum sponsors: CashDorado, FreeOnes, GotWebHost, JuggCash, OrbitalPay, SpunkyCash

Gold sponsors: Badpuppy, BuddyProfits, Grooby, Gunzblazing, JustBlowMe, Lightspeed, LoverCash, SmashBucks, TopBucks, X2K

Pride sponsors: Banana Guide Partners, Blake Mason, GayAdPros, IntenseCash, Maleflixxx, Men4SexNow, NakedSword, Pridebucks

Media sponsors: XBIZ, AVN, Cybersocket, FUBAR, GayMainStreet, YNOT

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Chatsworth, CA (PRADULT) March 10, 2010 - Dimension DVD has been the industry leader in DVD authoring and new technology for the better part of the past decade. Robert Brickman, co-founder of Dimension DVD, has joined hot newcomer studio skinworXXX as Chief Technology Officer and as a principal owner.

“Rob brings something to the table I tremendously appreciate. His knowledge of new technologies is a key to skinworXXX, as we continue to strive to be on the bleeding of edge of each and every new technology that impacts the adult industry,” explains skinworXXX CEO/director Joshua. “2010 is going to be a huge year for us, and bringing Rob on adds the final piece to what is already a pretty finely tuned machine.”

“Rob is great. He isn’t a fan or a guy looking to break into adult. He knows adult and comes from a family who’s known adult for over a quarter century,” adds skinworXXX owner/Adam & Eve Superstar Teagan Presley. “It’s great having Rob on our team, as not only will our DVDs continue to kick ass, but Rob will be instrumental with Joshua in making sure skinworXXX continues to push the envelope.”

Brickman will continue to serve as VP of Dimension DVD, and looks forward to continuing to service Dimension’s loyal customer base, “My reputation for the past decade this year has been delivering second-to-none DVD authoring and bringing new technologies such as HD-DVD and Blu-ray to my customers. Joshua has one of the best technological backgrounds of anyone in the adult field; mixing that with his very creative vision and drive to be number one, this was an offer I simply couldn’t pass up. I’ve always wanted to own part of a winner studio, and I believe firmly skinworXXX is the new studio to watch.”

Dimension DVD was founded in 2000, and was first to market in adult with HD-DVD, with the Wicked release of Camp Cuddly Pines Powertool Massacre. For more information on Dimension DVD, visit www.dimensionDVD.com.

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What is your favorite porno of all time?

Fashionistas.  Hands down.  I saw it not too long after it came out and it literally blew my mind.  It was before I had discovered kink for myself and so much of the content stirred my in really challenging and unexpected ways.  The eroticism, the connection and passion between Rocco Siffredi and Belladonna were so intense and powerful.  It is the one movie I can watch over and over again, the one porn I never tire of.  It is was fostered my mini-obsession with Belladonna.  She is still the most outstanding performer I have ever seen, fully embodies my definition of “authentic”.

What sex toy(s) do you like to use on film?

I really like glass toys.  I think they are pretty and look gorgeous inside the body as well as out.  For anal, I think there is really nothing better… they warm to body temperature, they are smooth and work well with lube and when in the ass, the clear ones give a sweet picture of anus insides, how cool is that?  I think metal is sexy too but they can be much colder going in than glass, so glass is my favorite.  There is one particular anal toy…it is used in Fashionistas I believe…I call it The Juicer…I have no idea what the name of it is. It is a butt toy that has a tip that looks like an orange juicer, a shaft that is covered in nubbins and a handle on the flange so it can be turned…so it looks like you are juicing the behind.  It is fabulous and feels amazing.

If you could have a Good Vibrations Shopping Spree, what would you put in your cart?

Oh wow.  The amazing thing is that I have so many sex toys already!  My partner works at a sex toy retailer so between the two of us, we have quite a few.  I think I would try a Feeldoe after all these years…I am still quite curious about it and have never had a chance to use it.  I would buy my own Eleven because that toy is gorgeous and hot and I don’t own one yet… I would stock up on Maximus which is my favorite lube for butt play and get a new Hitachi.  My old one is still going strong but I am going to be super sad the day it kicks out.  I would also buy a few straps (harnesses), my old ones, though worn-in are a little worse for the wear. =)

What was it like working on set for this film (with Good Releasing)?

Every set I’m on for a Good Releasing film feels like hang-out time with family.  I have “grown up” in porn with the lovely directors that are now working for Good Releasing so consequently it is just like being over at a friend’s house where the friend just happens to have a video camera.  Things get professional for sure and when it’s time to get down to business so-to-speak we all focus.  Before and after however, it’s the best.  I am so lucky to work and shoot with people I respect and admire.

If you’ve worked with other film companies, how was that different?

There is obviously not such a familial element and it can be less comedic, though I am often a super hambone on the set of films I’m in.  Depending on the shoot it can be much more get in, get out, get on with it but now less fun.  I think Good Releasing is producing films that allow performers a chance to be themselves and let their true personalities shine.  That might be one difference, there is more of “me” on a Good Releasing set for sure.

If you could give one piece of sex advice, what would it be?

MASTURBATE!!! I really feel that it is the single most important element to having a fulfilling sex life, not only because it tunes a person in to their own body but because it helps them know what they want and like.  Masturbating also gives a person a bigger bag of tricks… if something felt good during a great session of masturbation, why not bring that into  sexual experience with a partner?  As in; “Let me show you this new thing I tried while I was in the bath last night”. That could lead to a smokin’ hot shower, if you ask me… Our bodies are outstanding and have a huge capacity for pleasure.  I don’t think we as individuals need to wait for that potential to be released only through interaction with another person, we can do that for ourselves.

What do you think is the biggest myth about sex?

There are a few I would choose:

1. That you don’t need lube for anal and that saliva is enough.
2. That women can’t cum from anything but clitoral stimulation.  I like that the myth of purely vaginal orgasm was busted but it can invalidate the may other ways that women like to and tend to come.
3. That all women should be capable of doing what is seen in porn, what is more important is do they WANT to do what they see in porn? Is that hot for them? Not everyone is capable of gaping but more importantly, not every woman wants to. Desire is paramount.

Who are your influential co-stars, directors, both folks you’ve worked with and those you’d like to work with?

Oh there are so many! Shine Louise Houston, Madison Young, Courtney Trouble, Tristan Taormino, Jiz Lee, Belladonna, Dia Zerva, Kimberly Kane, NIna Hartley, Eon McKai, John Stagliano, Princess Donna, Nica Noelle James Mogul, Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, Jackie Strano, Jenna Jameson, Shar Rednour… the list is endless.  And consider this the same list of people I want to work with… especially those I haven’t worked with yet.

How do you prepare for your sex scenes?

A long shower and shave, a delicious meal, enemas if necessary, getting my fingers and toes polished up, listening to great music that gets me pumped and feeling sexy.  Anything that helps me focus on me and why I’m sexy and powerful and gets me in the mood.

What did/do you hope your performance(s) portray about sexuality?

That women can love sex.  In many, many different ways.  That it is ok to be sex and want sex.  That sex is fun and empowering and necessary.  That a woman can want to be touched and tied up and smacked and kissed and finger-fucked and rimmed and held and pounded and stroked and…

How has having access to sex-positive information and support changed your life?

I would not be anywhere near where I am today without the influence of people in my life who provided me with honest and open information about sex and sexuality.  I am open about sex and feel good about my body because I had access to information and ideas that reinforced healthy sexuality.  Information that promoted sexual desire, sexual safety and most importantly, sexual agency and choice.  I think sex is wonderful because I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people who told me that it could be and that it was.

What projects are you working on now?

This is a very exciting time!  I’ll be heading to LA soon to shoot with one of my favorite stars, the lovely Sinn Sage. I will be shooting a new scene for The Crash Pad Series with the hot Dia Zerva and a new photo set for my friend Jiz Lee’s new website, Karma Pervs!  I have a ton of work coming up so keep your eyes peeled.  Also, my website, www.dylanryanx.com will be launching right around my birthday and just before the Feminist Porn Awards!

Where can fans find more of your work? (website, twitter, facebook…)

for now, Twitter: @thedylanryan and FetLife: Dylan Ryan

And my friend and Colleague Courtney Trouble is now representing me and has started a sex-positive agency called Little Pink Book.  You can find it and me at www.littlepinkbook.biz.

The fabulous Greta Christina wrote an article the other day, in which she speculated on the reasons why there aren’t more men writing about sex. It’s a great piece and I highly recommend it. Actually, I recommend pretty much anything Greta writes.

My observations pretty much match hers. There are a lot more women who write about sex than men. She hits on some of the factors that contribute to that, and I think that there are some others that are worth delving into. I’m going to talk about sex educators and sex writers together because I see many of the same influences in both of these arenas. Anyway, I consider thoughtful sex writing to be one facet of sex education so it’s a somewhat unnecessary distinction, at least for the purposes of this piece.

Greta writes that one of the reasons that there are fewer men who talk, write or teach about sex is that “[w]hen men write about sex, on the other hand, they’re assumed to be drooling horndogs.” That certainly fits my observations. Men who want to talk thoughtfully about sex have to prove to their audience that they’re not creepy or just looking to get laid.

I certainly acknowledge that there are a lot of creepy guys in the world. There are a lot of predatory guys. There are a lot of manipulative guys. Most of them are looking to get laid, and many of them feel free to voice their opinions about sex and women. I really understand why many male sex educators & writers need to prove that they’re not one of these guys. However, one of the effects of that is that many men who write or talk about sex often avoid talking about their personal sexual experiences. It’s one way to make it clear that we’re talking about sexuality in general, not our sexualities in particular. That creates a distance that serves to insulate us in order to minimize the chance that someone is going to misinterpret what we write. Being able to do that is a skill that takes a fair amount of practice and a lot of people simply don’t want to bother or don’t know how to start.

Another reason is that sex and relationship advice is generally seen as part of the female sphere of influence. Some of that stems from the ways in which girls and women usually have a lot more practice at talking about and processing their emotional relationships than men do. When men start talking about these topics, we usually have more of a learning curve, simply as a result of not having had as many opportunities to develop those skills. And without role models to learn from, it’s harder for boys and men to acquire those skills, which reinforces the cycle. This is slowly changing, but it’s still a strong element. (This is also evident in the field of psychotherapy, which is heavily skewed towards women practitioners.)

Still another factor is that we have an overly simple and reductionist view of male sexuality. We have this idea that male sexuality is simple: get it hard, get it in, get it off. And we have this idea that female sexuality is this vastly complex, confusing terrain that requires a lot to make it work. But my experience is that men’s sexual desires are just as complex, tricky, rewarding, and fraught as women’s.

Of course, there are some differences. For example, a lot of girls and women don’t know where the clitoris is and I have yet to hear of a cisgender boy or man who didn’t know where his penis is. My observation is that while some women know little or nothing about their sexual and/or reproductive physiology, there are others who know a lot. Meanwhile, almost every man knows something about how his body works, but far fewer know as much about it as a well-informed woman knows about hers. It’s as if we’ve decided “I know where this one button is. There’s nothing else to know.” And so male sexuality gets reduced to that single function, which then becomes another self-reinforcing loop.

That means that a man who’s willing to talk about something other than “get it hard, get it in, get it off” risks the backlash that any guy who steps outside the box of masculinity risks. This is one of the consequences of sexism, homophobia, and gender essentialism, and not a lot of men have the tools they need to be brave enough to break free. I don’t think it’s a worthwhile endeavor to compare the impact of sexism et al on men versus women, and I have no interest in coddling men who aren’t willing to take the chance to step out of their boxes. But when we’re asking why there aren’t more men writing about sex, the ways in which sexism affects men is certainly part of the puzzle. And given that (heterosexual) men generally benefit from sexism in some very real, material ways, there are barriers to stepping outside of the box that other folks don’t experience in the same ways.

Having said that, there are some clear general differences in the ways that men and women experience sex, some of which I’ve learned from transgender folks. Several of the transmen I’ve spoken with have told me that when they started taking hormones, their sexual desires became more visual and more focused on their genitals and on penetrating a partner. By contrast, some transwomen have told me that their sexual desires shifted towards a more general, full-body experience. These aren’t meant to be representative of transpeople’s experiences in general, but I’ve heard enough of these stories to suggest a pattern. To me, this suggests that some of the differences in how people experience sex is grounded in biology. I believe that as long as we’re mindful of the existence of sexual diversity and we remember that we’re talking about overlapping bell curves rather than a mars/venus dichotomy, we can explore that.

But when you put these different pieces together, it’s easy to see where some of the barriers to men entering the sex writer/educator field come from. To the degree that men want to explore/discuss/write about their desire to satisfy (as Greta phrased it) “an animal urge to put a dick in a wet hole,” there’s not a lot of room to do that without being attacked as a perpetrator or a predator. And to the degree that men want to talk about their other desires, fantasies, and interests, there’s a whole lot of folks ready to discount them for being unmanly.

Making this even harder, most men don’t have as much experience in talking about these things as many women do, so there are often a lot of stumbles and mistakes. My observation from reading blogs and articles is that there’s no shortage of people waiting to attack someone for a clumsily-phrased idea, especially when it comes to sex. This tends to keep folks from being willing to dive into the water and as a result, many of the men who are interested in exploring sexuality topics don’t want to do it in such a public venue.

So I think that there are a lot of different pieces to this puzzle, but what they all seem to come down to is that men don’t write about sex because they don’t see other men writing about sex. All I can say to that is “Come on in. The water’s fine.”